When Religion Impacts Your Body

When Religion Impacts Your Body

It's one thing to read one's narrative of navigating through the shaming messages and double binds that religious institutions place on one's sexuality--it's a completely different experience to see it acted out. Join us Friday, September 28 at 7:30 at the Old West Church to see Bobby Britton’s play, Revival: A Southern Gothic Gospel Cabaret”, a show about the impact of Evangelical roots on his body and sexuality. Jeremiah Gibson will join other sex educators for a post-play panel on the impact of religion on gender and sexuality.

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How to Change Your Perspective

How to Change Your Perspective

A world with -4.50 vision (or worse) is awfully frightening, and requires a heightened sense of hypervigilance to get through. We can help correct your sight and perspective, so that you can see your partner (and yourself) through 20/20 vision and have the best relationship possible.

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Choosing a Couples Therapist

Choosing a Couples Therapist

There are many therapists who claim to do relational counseling, so how do you know who to rely on to fight for your relationship?

If you're looking for marriage counseling or couples therapy, please ask about the credentials of your therapist. Our couples therapists have years of training in couples therapy. Most of us are licensed specifically to practice marriage and family therapy (LMFT), and our license requires us to have much more than the minimum requirements that I suggest in the blog post, which means that we have a significant understanding of how relationship dynamics operate and how to help you create positive, long-lasting new interactions.

We hope that our quality of services and our combined experience and knowledge about relationships will diminish any hesitations about the price of couples therapy, particularly once you begin to notice changes in the quality of communication between you and your partner.

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Therapy for Small (and Large) Business

Therapy for Small (and Large) Business

Siblings and families who own small businesses often seek the help of Family Therapists. Frequently, a family business becomes conflicted and dysfunctional. This may be front page news. More often, such business arrangements can cause emotional, economic, and psychological distress. Divorce, family disruption, and bankruptcy are not uncommon. The systems approach of family therapy is uniquely designed to resolve such difficulties before crisis leads to disaster. We have been working with families who own businesses for more than 15 years.

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Under the Covers Episode 5: Perspective

Under the Covers Episode 5: Perspective

We watch couples and families experience the latter scenario, where each participant has a different perspective of what happened. In couples therapy, for instance, we hear Partner A's, perspective and Partner B's perspective. We are not interested in finding out which one is right or accurate, but we're paying attention to how the sharing of these two perspectives unfolds.

In conversations, there's seldom a right and wrong. Just different. In Episode 5 of the podcast Under the Covers: The Music of Relationships, Stephanie and Jeremiah discuss how accepting differing values, can ease some of the anxieties around differing perspectives.

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Under the Covers Episode 4

Under the Covers Episode 4

Our couples therapists will ask early about how these patterns exist in the most intimate of contexts: sexuality. In Episode 4 of Under the Covers, Stephanie and Jeremiah talk about the messages (the "Shoulds") that we learn about sexuality. They then provide some healthy "shoulds"--expectations that could lead to a more fulfilling sexual experience.

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Supervision

Supervision

South Shore Family Health Collaborative has three therapists who supervise other clinicians, both licensed therapists and unlicensed clinicians that work at community health agencies. For more information, check out our blog post:

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Under the Covers Episode 3

Under the Covers Episode 3

In Episode 3 of Under the Covers, Stephanie and Jeremiah break down this dance between pursuing and distancing. They discuss the strong emotional needs that may keep partners in the pursue-distance dance, and explore ways of effectively creating new dance steps.

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Under the Covers Episode 2

Under the Covers Episode 2

In episode 2 of Under the Covers, Stephanie and Jeremiah discuss the anatomy of an argument and the relationship between criticism and defensiveness.

The goal of our work is not to help you stop arguing altogether, as it's imperative that your relationship has room to celebrate the differences between you and your partner, but rather to find healthy ways to end arguments that also support the relationship. Stephanie and Jeremiah share several tips for helping create these effective endings.

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Introducing: Under the Covers

Introducing: Under the Covers

We are excited to announce the launch of our new podcast, Under the Covers: The Music of Relationships, hosted by Jeremiah Gibson and Stephanie Wallace.

Under the Covers combines two of our favorite interests: relationships and music. Each Under the Covers episode will address a particular question about relationships, dating, and sexuality. Stephanie and I are planning on recording two or three episodes per month, and will keep you up-to-date on new episodes through our blog and Facebook page.

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A Single Session of Therapy

A Single Session of Therapy

A single session of therapy can introduce and describe themes and processes that have been undermining the happiness of a couple or family. It can also be helpful to mute a crisis, or normalize a painful situation, or avert making an unproductive or destructive relational decision.

A single session is also effective with a large extended family group struggling with the aging process of a beloved parent, or a sudden death that has thrown a family into disarray:

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The Medical Model

The Medical Model

Entitlement is a very subtle thing if not noticed or challenged in everyday situations. It also relates, I think, to systems problems in the medical and mental health model.

Problems of mental health and medical health will get better in the United States only when we as citizens wrest control of a medical model from a system dominated by the economic concerns of a pharmaceutical and health insurance system whose first concern is the profit of themselves and their shareholders.

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Being Male

Being Male

We need to redefine what masculinity means. The traditional views on masculinity no longer works for a lot of men (specifically young men). 

More importantly, we need to have more conversations that define masculinity as a plethora of options: stoic and vulnerable, dominant and submissive, confrontational and peaceful. All of these characteristics are important parts of the male experience.

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Taboo and the Theory of Voldemort

Taboo and the Theory of Voldemort

We all have antagonists in our stories. Naysayers. The other woman (or man). Perpetrators of abuse.

We notice that these antagonists very seldom have names; rather, they’re referred to as “him”, “her”, “that woman/man”, “the babysitter” (or other qualifying descriptor). I ask clients the names of these antagonistic characters, and often face resistance to get an actual name.

Which leads us to the Theory of Voldemort:

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