LGBTQ Families and Holidays

LGBTQ Families and Holidays

Same-sex couples often experience a uniquely complicated process with their families of origin. This begins with coming out and identifying as an LGBTQ person, and we recognize that many people will be spending their first holidays with their families either as an LGBTQ-identified person or in a new LGBTQ relationship. This article provides some tips for coming out to your family of origin.

Once family members begin to identify and work through their emotional experience, it generally becomes easier to figure out how to do the relationship moving forward, which may include the establishment of clear boundaries, particularly if parents are stuck in anger and criticism. Establishing boundaries with families can be challenging for long-term same-sex relationships as well. We provide tips for same-sex couples in which there's a continual need for establishing boundaries with families of origin.

 

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Regarding Sex Addiction

Regarding Sex Addiction

South Shore Family and South Shore Sexual Health join with the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists in standing against language of sex addiction to describe the sexual behaviors and desires of people with high levels of sexual excitement and low levels of sexual inhibition. Problems may arise in relationships between people with differing levels of excitement and inhibition, but these are relational dynamics that can be discussed through couples and sex therapy.

We will talk about sexual urges, thoughts, and behaviors as natural sexual processes, as ways of exploring who you are and how you can grow both individually and relationally. We will continue to discuss sexuality from a pleasure-centric model, where sex is a way of celebrating the positive sensations and physiological processes of our bodies. And we will continue to explore sexuality in individual and couples contexts, where sex is representative of a decision making process by which you combine intimacy, growth, and pleasure.

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Under the Covers Episode 4

Under the Covers Episode 4

Our couples therapists will ask early about how these patterns exist in the most intimate of contexts: sexuality. In Episode 4 of Under the Covers, Stephanie and Jeremiah talk about the messages (the "Shoulds") that we learn about sexuality. They then provide some healthy "shoulds"--expectations that could lead to a more fulfilling sexual experience.

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The Sexual Double Standard

The Sexual Double Standard

The sexual double standard affects the way that young men and women talk about sexuality.

Women are far more likely to be on the receiving end of embarrassment and shame than men. After all, men gain social status for their sexual exploits. Women are more likely to be emblazoned with a capital A (or, in 2016, a capital S, for slut) for theirs.

The sexual double standard follows women and men into long-term committed relationships. Learn more about how, and how we can break the power of these social messages around sexuality:

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Men and Body Image

Men and Body Image

An estimated one in every five eating disorders belongs to males. The ideal male body in the Huffington Post article is marketed to boys and men in almost every superhero or action movie, sporting event, men's health magazine, and (most) celebrity sightings. (And this week, the Olympics.) Stereotypically masculine traits--strong, stoic, fixer, outdoorsy--ooze out of many of these spreads.

Women have more intense body image challenges, but companies such as Dove and Aerie are beginning to deconstruct these themes on a national level. Let's think about how to start conversations for men.

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Family Therapy and Sexuality

Family Therapy and Sexuality

We are dedicated to providing quality sex education to families of adolescents and young adults in the greater Boston area. There's a really good chance that should you send your adolescent or family to SSFHC, our therapists will be exploring the role of sexuality and relationships in your teenager's and family's development.

But what does that mean? What are our goals, and what does success look like?

We recognize that talking about sexuality with your teenagers may be challenging, but we hope to discuss some, if not all, of the following topics:

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