Six Steps Toward More Effective Conversations

Six Steps Toward More Effective Conversations

A telltale sign that your conversation has been overtaken by anxiety is topic jumping. The more topics you jump to, the more powerful anxiety becomes, resulting in inefficient, frustrating conversations and a likelihood that the next conversation won’t be particularly positive. These six steps can help you have more focused, effective conversations.

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Moving Past Silence

Moving Past Silence

Simply being heard and understood goes a long way toward regaining intimacy. Our job in relationships is to relate, which means validating our partner’s perspective and doing our best to understand it.

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Anxiety: The Unwanted Relational Offspring

Anxiety: The Unwanted Relational Offspring

Anxiety often shows up in the context of our relational life.  Trying to understand yourself and your partner is an ongoing task and the stakes are high because the outcome is important to you. Meaningful connection is not possible without vulnerability.  Anxiety, however, is optional.  And even if anxiety arrives, how long it stays is up to you.

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Understanding Distancing

Understanding Distancing

One of the most common complaints we get during our intake calls is the following: “My partner doesn’t communicate with me.”

Which is interesting, for one, because we’re always communicating. I could be silently sitting in the corner of the room with my back turned to you, and I’m communicating that I’m upset, or that I don’t want to talk to you.

More importantly, this sentiment gives us an early clue to what might be happening in your relationship.

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Arguing in Front of Your Kids

Arguing in Front of Your Kids

Think of the last argument that you had with your partner.

If you have children, where were they during your dispute? Did you turn them away? Did you notice them joining the fray at any point? Did you even notice them?

Our couples therapists can help you and your partner develop more effective ways of handling conflict–respectful, organized methods that leave you feeling more refreshed and valued and your children less anxious and more secure.

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