Regarding Sex Addiction

Regarding Sex Addiction

South Shore Family and South Shore Sexual Health join with the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists in standing against language of sex addiction to describe the sexual behaviors and desires of people with high levels of sexual excitement and low levels of sexual inhibition. Problems may arise in relationships between people with differing levels of excitement and inhibition, but these are relational dynamics that can be discussed through couples and sex therapy.

We will talk about sexual urges, thoughts, and behaviors as natural sexual processes, as ways of exploring who you are and how you can grow both individually and relationally. We will continue to discuss sexuality from a pleasure-centric model, where sex is a way of celebrating the positive sensations and physiological processes of our bodies. And we will continue to explore sexuality in individual and couples contexts, where sex is representative of a decision making process by which you combine intimacy, growth, and pleasure.

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Chivalry and Relationships

Chivalry and Relationships

The chivalry narrative, a narrative where men protect and take care of women, creates double binds for both genders. It tells women that they have positive qualities that are worth protecting, but the ensuing protection communicates that they are weak and incompetent. It discourages men from expressing needs, wants, and desires while expecting them to be able to concretely express what we want and expect in the bedroom.

This article provides tips for couples seeking to attain more equal relationships by moving away from gendered expectations.

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Military Relationships

Military Relationships

The emotional and psychological challenges that our military members face during and after deployment play significant impacts on their relationships. In Episode 7 of Under the Covers, Jeremiah Gibson and Stephanie Wallace discuss how military couples can improve their relationship during deployment, while a military member reintegrates following deployment, and if PTSD affects one or both partners.

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Now on iTunes...

Now on iTunes...

Check out Under the Covers on iTunes! We've recently released two new episodes--one on substance use and couple relationships, and one on the experiences of military couples. You can also find us on Stitcher.

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Under the Covers Episode 5: Perspective

Under the Covers Episode 5: Perspective

We watch couples and families experience the latter scenario, where each participant has a different perspective of what happened. In couples therapy, for instance, we hear Partner A's, perspective and Partner B's perspective. We are not interested in finding out which one is right or accurate, but we're paying attention to how the sharing of these two perspectives unfolds.

In conversations, there's seldom a right and wrong. Just different. In Episode 5 of the podcast Under the Covers: The Music of Relationships, Stephanie and Jeremiah discuss how accepting differing values, can ease some of the anxieties around differing perspectives.

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Loneliness, the Elderly, and Couples Therapy

Loneliness, the Elderly, and Couples Therapy

Healthy intimate relationships are often antidotes to feelings of loneliness for elderly folks.

Couples therapy could be a safe place to learn about and connect with your partner's vulnerabilities of loss and loneliness. Couples therapy could also help you improve your sexual relationship, and sense of connectedness. Our partner's acceptance and celebration of our bodies, particularly if they are affected by disability, often parallels an acceptance and sharing of our emotional worlds.

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