How to Experience Change in Your Relationship

How to Experience Change in Your Relationship

Relationship change is hard because it challenges the archetypes--expected behaviors, reactions, desires--that we develop about our partner over the course of our relationship. We create archetypes about our partners early in our relationships--sometimes in our first meetings. It's often easier for us to deal with the flawed partner that we know rather than the mysterious partner with potential that we don't know.

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How to Change Your Perspective

How to Change Your Perspective

A world with -4.50 vision (or worse) is awfully frightening, and requires a heightened sense of hypervigilance to get through. We can help correct your sight and perspective, so that you can see your partner (and yourself) through 20/20 vision and have the best relationship possible.

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When Humor Doesn't Work

When Humor Doesn't Work

Humor doesn't work in relationships when it is critical or blaming, when it avoids important conversations, attacks other people, is inappropriately timed, and when it is self-effacing. Read more about how these styles of humor hurt your relationship.

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Moving Past Silence

Moving Past Silence

Simply being heard and understood goes a long way toward regaining intimacy. Our job in relationships is to relate, which means validating our partner’s perspective and doing our best to understand it.

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Silent Intimacy Killers

Silent Intimacy Killers

Stephen Duclos reflects on four silent intimacy killers--unseen symptoms that negatively impact a relationship: anxiety, resentment, absence of touch, and feeling responsibility for things that aren't your responsibility.

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Choosing a Couples Therapist

Choosing a Couples Therapist

There are many therapists who claim to do relational counseling, so how do you know who to rely on to fight for your relationship?

If you're looking for marriage counseling or couples therapy, please ask about the credentials of your therapist. Our couples therapists have years of training in couples therapy. Most of us are licensed specifically to practice marriage and family therapy (LMFT), and our license requires us to have much more than the minimum requirements that I suggest in the blog post, which means that we have a significant understanding of how relationship dynamics operate and how to help you create positive, long-lasting new interactions.

We hope that our quality of services and our combined experience and knowledge about relationships will diminish any hesitations about the price of couples therapy, particularly once you begin to notice changes in the quality of communication between you and your partner.

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